Join the SwingFest™ Convention - Tropic MiamiBeat
Dance to the sounds of the Tropics. The 5th annual Tropic MiamiBeat Lifestyle party is being held at a swanky resort located at Miami's South Beach Art Deco Historic District. Join the BEAT with Live DJ's at pool parties, nightly themed club style parties, fun after parties suites, and more. This event is the first and only clothing optional Lifestyle party in Miami's South Beach. As SwingFest™ is synonymous with the word party, it’s flashy, bold, wild, and over-the-top, all in the best possible ways. Tropic MiamiBeat is sure to provide guests from all over the world with the sultry Lifestyle experience for couples looking to inspire and explore one's fantasies.
When attending the SwingFest™ Swinger Convention, you will experience what thousands of attendees enjoyed since 2008 in Hollywood and Miami, Florida.
Thank you for your ongoing support and promotion of SwingFest™, and for making us “The leader in the lifestyle.” Do not hesitate if you are new in the swinger lifestyle to contact us with any questions, and please, review our “Why Start Swinging” information below. We look forward to seeing and partying with you in one of our many exotic destinations!
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People who for the first time learn about the swinging lifestyle often assume that there has to be something wrong in a relationship within a couple for them to join in. Ironically, the truth is completely the opposite. This lifestyle is ONLY for couples that are happy, committed, and secure in their relationships.
So, what makes this lifestyle so special and why do a growing number of modern couples decide to join in? The fact is that there is nothing different about the people who participate in the lifestyle. What's different is the way they go about exploring their fantasies and sexuality.
Sex used to be something that only people who are deeply in love, and most of the time married, were supposed to share. One of the new realized realities of our society today is the fact that most people can now separate love and sex. Sex is becoming something more of a leisure, if you will, rather than an experience shared only with your soulmate. Does this mean that sex is no longer a physical expression of love? Of course - it still is! We still reserve "love making" only for the ones we love. However, the recreational sex is becoming something that can be detached from an actual relationship and enjoyed as an entirely separate activity.
Another new reality of the modern society is the fact that many people do require sexual variety to live a fully enjoyable sex lives. It is not a secret that most modern marriages during its existence are challenge by adultery or end up in divorce. We've all heard the statistics. Does it mean we don't love our partners or don't want them as much sexually any more? Absolutely not! "Different" doesn't mean "better". For example, when one looks at someone of an opposite sex other than his or her partner - it is not in a search for something better. By looking at someone different, we find excitement in exploring their body shapes, moves, sexuality - it's all very new, different and, therefore, exciting. Variety is what makes many people excited and the lust for it is here to stay.
One of the other newly accepted parts of our sex lives are our fantasies. By definition, they are our sexual desires which many times do NOT include our partners ( or at least not JUST them ). Even well recognized sex therapists have concluded that sexual fantasies are healthy and are here to stay as a part of almost any relationship.
So, what are the choices that modern couples face today if they are seeking some variety or spice in their sex lives? Well, there are several options. One is to suppress your feeling and keep going in denial. That is the approach that works on the surface. Everything looks great - you are a traditional "happy" couple who want to be with no one else, but each other. ( Oh, how sweet! ) But the fact of the matter is that you are lying not only to yourself, but also to your partner. By suppressing your feelings you are not getting rid of them, but many times you actually make them stronger.
So, there goes the trust and communication that few relationships can survive without. The second choice is something that quite a few people choose to do as a way out - adultery. Even though in this case you do get to satisfy your desires, you once again end up with the absence of those two main ingredients of any strong relationship that we just talked about. The third choice is something that has only been recently discovered by the mainstream couples - swinging. It is a lifestyle that not only keeps the trust and communication between the two partners - it requires both of those qualities to participate.
The swinging lifestyle is about sharing the sexual fantasies together with your partner ("together" being the keyword). This is the lifestyle that can only work for the committed couples that are secure in their relationships and have open and direct communication with each other.
Another misunderstanding about the lifestyle is the myth that swingers are people who screw everyone they meet in the lifestyle and do it as often as they can. That can't be further from the truth! As a matter of fact, most couples are not what's called "hardcore swingers".
There are different types of swinging and a couple can select the one that caters to their sexuality the best. You can go only as far as social flirting, light touching with a friendly couple, or you can choose to get sexual with just your own partner while another couple is enjoying each other in the same room. It all depends on how you and your partner want your swinging experience to happen, and you should never go any further than the comfort level that you have set.
There are several kinds of swinging that couples choose to participate in. There is a "traditional" couple to couple relationship, where two couples exchange partners for the sexual activities and sometimes participate in bi-sexual play as well. There are three-way relationships where a couple invites a single male or female to play along with them. Some couples prefer to only swap bi-sexual partners. There are several more types of swinging, and they all are about sharing desires together with your partner and growing from it within your own relationship.
You don't have to jump into the lifestyle by going all the way with the first people you meet. Many couples choose to take it slow while adjusting to the new lifestyle. Some start by looking at others and talking about what they find attractive. Watching adult movies together could be another way to share fantasies and desires before inviting others to join you. Using toys, role-playing, flirting are all ways to explore. It is OK to take your time and in many cases it takes a while from the moment a couple decides to explore to their first sexual encounter.
Even though couples that join the lifestyle are looking to enhance their sex lives and overall relationships, it is also important to make sure not to damage what you already have. Each member of a couple must have a desire to satisfy both of their fantasies and not just their own.
If one partner is looking to only satisfy his or her own desires dragging their partner along for the ride, it is a pretty good indication that there is something wrong in a relationship as is. In that case it is strongly recommended not to participate in the lifestyle at all. Your primary relationship with your partner is the most important thing and should be the number one priority throughout your experiences in the lifestyle.
So, make sure to keep the communication gates open between you and your partner at all times and set your pace and rules upfront for the most enjoyable experiences. Happy swinging!
Question 1: Couples at SwingFest
We are asked almost daily, from people who want to attend SwingFest™,"What kinds of people attend SwingFest...we are concerned because..." The questions tend to gravitate towards the ages, body types and sexual activities of attendees. Prospective attendees want some assurance that when they attend, they will be attending without perceived bias of other attendees related to their age, height, weight or sexual activity.
We support the lifestyle and those within it without bias or restriction, and can only hope that the message is conveyed that we are an equal opportunity lifestyle event. We understand that from wherever you come or have been, there are going to be groups within the lifestyle that cater to certain ethic backgrounds, body types and even financial levels, it is a fragment of the world we live in and also play in. We support every group or person that attends SwingFest, and will continue to be open to like-minded individuals and groups within the lifestyle that promotes a safe and secure environment.
Our success is evident and promising when we accomplish putting a variety of groups together to attend one event, to not only support vendors and other businesses within the lifestyle, but in one weekend, a multitude of people get together for a big adult only party and B2B event for the like-minded. Contrary to the perceived connotation of the swinger, we all understand that new friendships and contacts are made without having to have sex together. Meeting new people with similar thoughts and sexual openness during SwingFest™ is an incredible undertaking where people from all over the world come together and party as a common group with common desires.
Question 2: Single males and females how do they fit in at SwingFest?
We have seen a large number of couples that play with single males and that is why we allow them at the event. Our policy is stringent for a single male to attend. We try to maintain a 1 male per 50 couple ratio. I try to speak to each single male or female attendee, and confirm they are on a credible lifestyle website, have had experiences with other couples, and that are validated by couple(s) on websites. We are more apt to verify their credibility as a single male with the use of site verifications. Unfortunately, some sites don't have this sort of system built in, so we have gone as far as to have a couple be their reference. This process, or verification system does not need to be as strict for the attending single female, it has not been in our experience to have been prodded by their pretty horns.
Once they are at the event, I speak with each one personally when they are at registration and at that point give them their first warning," if you do anything that is less than classy, you will receive a second warning, if we speak again, you will be removed with no refunds." In the five years, dealing with over 250 single males, we have had to remove one from the event. Not a bad percentage.
We have seen over the years, you can pick out the single males who are new. They stand around like a dear in headlights. What has been great to watch, is how helpful couples and even other single males are and take these newbie’s under their wings and help them become successful in satisfying not only their own but other couples desires.
Question 3: First experience expectations.
The scariest part about getting started is taking the first step. It is much easier to be hidden, in a way, behind a computer screen via emails, or sitting in the chat room talking sexy. We have all been there, and at some point, the emails and chat lead into the meeting, because after all, that is the path of the lifestyle-getting to meet face to face. Taking that plunge into the actually meeting a couple or couples for the first time is on such a different level.
It is as agonizing meeting new people to play with, as it was to have lost your virginity. We had found a couple on several sites that sparked our interest and so we initiated that intro email and waited for the response. The return was passive aggressive. Although we were attractive, we were too far away. Persistence pays off on some level, and we received an invitation to their home for a birthday party. They had another couple joining us, which was great because the more the merrier, but…it was another couple, and now we were going to be meeting TWO new couples.
There were days leading up to this meeting and we talked about the do’s, don’ts, what if’s, secret words, looks, etc. We were trying to cover our bases on how to read each other without saying a word in a whole different environment. We drove for several hours to get to our sexual destination, and then we sat in the driveway with a lot of angst, and slowly walked to the door like two teenagers going on a date.
Both couples were extraordinary and the night was fantastic to say the least, we didn’t have to utilize any secret looks or whispers, except the ones that reinforced we were both doing just fine.
That is not always the scenario and some couples get into situations that are uncomfortable or shocking for either or both. I think it is always best to not underestimate any scenario and be ready to juke. Sometimes you may have a drink and cigarette, maybe even cuddle after great sex, other times you may be given a wipe, a bottle of water and an adios out the door. There are people that seem “normal,” in email, or that their profile is a good and clear indication of what they are, or not into, but do not ever be afraid to ask questions. It is often easier to offend from the keyboard and retreat than the headboard.
Go into your first meeting, whether you play or not, knowing what you want and what you and your partner want and expect. You can always hit the bathroom and send a text, kick under the table or do your secret signal to stay or go. Sometimes it is better to not have any expectations and just see how everything happens. Our first experience gave us so much to build off of and opened new doors of communication and signals, and away we went.
I think everyone has a story of the good, the bad and the ugly.
Question 4: What are the PLAYROOMS like at SwingFest?
Playrooms at Swingfest are a must! The list below consist of some of the themed rooms you may expect at Swingfest Events. From the Towel Only room to the Booty Call room, we are here to give you the opprotunity to fulfil your fantasies!
TOWEL ONLY ROOM:
This room’s primary function is a place that will require attendees to either wear a towel or be nude. The policy and function of this room will be enforced. This room was designed and offered, based on the many requests to be a resemblance of particular club’s play areas.
If watching is your thing or if you really enjoy being at the center of attention, than you will love the Voyeur Room. This room are for exhibitionists to take turns to show off to voyeurs in the room.
BOOTY CALL ROOM:
Almost every lifestyle website has some sort of call to action button for people who are feeling that urge to do whatever crazy thing comes to mind. The theory behind this room is much the same. People come to this room when they want that quick spontaneous, let say “CALL TO ACTION.”
KINKY BDSM ROOM:
Do you enjoy alternative lifestyles? Then come explore your fetish for Latex, Leather, and BDSM play room. Kink is a term used to refer to a broad range of sexual practices (sometimes referred to as kinky), including spanking, bondage, dominance and submission, sadomasochism (BDSM) and sexual fetishism. Kink sexual practices go beyond what are considered conventional sexual practices as a means of heightening the intimacy between sexual partners. If you want to get kinky and like it wild then this is the room to visit.
Question 5: What it's like being a swinger living in a glass house?
People often wonder what it is like living in a glass house without curtains. The proverbial house is the lifestyle and the lack of curtains that let people see us in it, is the way in which we are portrayed to others as they look in. Our house is not totally visible, it does have doors and curtains in other places. It is a lighter way to "look" at it, from our point of view and from others. People, even within the industry, do not conduct themselves as openly, by choice, for various reasons. It is a little difficult to be incognito when our business is the voice, ears and eyes of and within the lifestyle.
It is different being out in the open and letting others see. We have taken the stance that we knowingly take a chance to be more open rather than hide behind a walls that many do. There is usually a larger negative consequence for hiding all or even parts of the truth, then to put it out there. It is part of a larger decision to be truthful about the business and that we are behind it, it leaves little room for criticism or skepticism. As seen a lot, the consequences of the truth, or sometimes lack of it, are all over the media with those in a larger public arena.
Once the initial shock has gone after telling people, it is then old news. For example, take famous people who have cheated, and as the skeletons are falling out of their closet, it only delays the inevitable, "the truth." There is nothing more to ruminate or speculate about, unless there are questions. We have made friends, outside of the lifestyle that know what we do, either professionally or personally, and it did not sway their perspective of us. People seem to evolve with the times, tend to grasp other lifestyles more easily because the world is not so cookie cutter as it was ten, twenty or forty years ago. There are exceptions, there usually are to circumstance or individual, and that is okay, too. There is just as much, if not a greater tendency, to have offended people that we were not honest because they felt betrayed, in the early stages of us starting out in the lifestyle.
People perceive "swingers" negatively and don't seem to look at the bigger picture that participants in this particular lifestyle are not as dirty nor criminal as you want them to be. They are more like their neighbors and even your family. When you look at us, when you know us, we probably do not fulfill your stereotypical illusion. We are just regular people, but living in a glass house, please, don't throw rocks.
Question 6: Are you really for real?
Don't you wonder about couples or singles in the lifestyle who proclaim in their profile, "We want to meet sexy couples to play with." As long, and as many sites we and our friends have been on, we have all read that tagline from time to time. We have responded, of course, because who does not want to play with other sexy couples, seems pretty cut and dry? Not always.
We have emailed the said sexy couple and after several getting-to-know-you emails, we then received the response, "...we haven't met anyone yet, we are just so busy..." Which we can understand having our own busy lives because even the best made plans can fail. Eventually, there is follow up from them and they will tell their real story, because what they really like about the lifestyle is the chatting, either through email or chat rooms, and looking at pictures on other couple's profile. We all have a little voyeur in us, and let's admit, there are some terrific pictures out there. It is understandable that this is their perspective, just wish they would have either updated their tagline, or maybe said something in email #2 or #3 that personal meetings is really not what they want.
Everybody has their own gig in the lifestyle, it is not always about the down and dirty with other couples. If these couples like cyberchat and pictures, then maybe they should not be so deliberate on their tagline, and be honest enough to not post that particular stated advertisement. People's profiles give the greatest opportunity to state preferences, including cyber over the real thing, and this will detour the real life people from the cybers.
There is room for everyone to play in the lifestyle, and seemingly most people have busy schedules and squeeze this in, too. So, instead of saying what you think people want to hear, say what you want or feel and get out there and do it. This lifestyle is really not singly just about sex with others, sometimes this lifestyle helps you in finding a part of your sexual self that you didn't even know was in there. And, what really makes being in the lifestyle indulgent is being honest with yourself, and your partner (if that's your situation), about what you want and how satisfied you are
Question 7: What is the Meet and Greet at SwingFest?
The Meet & Greet is the perfect opportunity to meet new people while still enjoying all that the event has to offer. This is a fun and friendly social gathering where you will find all kinds of people ranging from those new to the swinger lifestyle to those who are experienced, both single or partnered. This early evening gathering is designed to make it easier to find old friends and make some new connections. Come join the fun and let’s Meet & Greet! This is a 'hosted' gathering, open to singles and couples of all ages & orientations.